Just Because the Plumbing is in, Doesn't Mean the House is Ready to Occupy

Women, listen up!  This is for you!  There are good guys out there!  “Lies, all lies” you say?  No, it’s the truth.  But you may not be deserving of one.  Don’t be offended yet, just read on.  It will make sense shortly.

It’s a well-known fact that most men are after one thing.  And that thing would be?  Yep, you guessed it.  SEX!  So how’s a woman to find a decent man in a crowd only looking for sex??  Simple.  Stop advertising yourself as a sexual play thing and start advertising your marriage qualities.

There are far too many young girls (and yes, I do mean young girls who might be 12 if I’m being generous) flaunting what the good Lord gave them in front of strangers.  And it’s not surprising because look at who they have looked up to all these years.  Celebrities?  Models?  Older siblings and parents?  When you walk around showing your business to all of Terre Haute (or whatever city you may live in), you’re sending men a message that you see yourself just as they do—a good time.

Now, I’m not saying you shouldn’t dress to impress, I’m just saying don’t take away so much clothing that nothing is left to the imagination.  Don’t let men pressure you into having sex on the first date.  Don’t teach your nieces and daughters that it’s okay to show the world her panties on Facebook and YouTube.  And for the love of all things holy, stop with the sexting!

If you want to attract a decent man, you first need to be a decent woman.  And that means keeping yourself covered and acting like a lady.  Don’t go bragging about this guy you slept with or that one.  Don’t pretend to be okay doing the friends-with-benefits thing.  Because you know that’ll only hurt people and most often, the woman is the one getting hurt in that situation.  And stop meeting men in bars.  I know it’s hard to take me seriously when I say that because after all, that is where I met my son’s father.  But trust me, the men you meet in bars are not worthy of your time or your lady bits.

Start flaunting the respect your mother taught you to have for yourself.  Start saying yes to guys you normally wouldn’t give a second thought if they ask you to dinner.  Show him you can take care of yourself, and just want someone to spend time with.  Don’t let him think you’re just looking for a good time.  Be honest with yourself and with him.  If you want to settle down and have a family, don’t let him think otherwise.  Be respectful of him and yourself.  Be a good role model for the little girls looking up to you.  Start thinking about your children/future children.  Would you want your daughter to give it up just to fill a void?  Or would you rather she wait for the man that deserves her?  Be more selective, but don’t be unrealistic.  There are good guys out there, but they fall for the good girls.  Not the girls dressing like they’re in a Victoria’s Secret fashion show.

Just because the plumbing is in, doesn’t mean the house is ready to occupy.  I don’t care how old a woman is, this statement is always true.  You may think you are ready for a sexual relationship, but so many of you aren’t.  And if you’re already in a sexual relationship, make sure that’s not all he’s there for.  Women are worth more than they give themselves credit for.  You deserve to be happy and respected.  And until you start standing up for yourself, and for what you deserve, you will never find that good guy to help make your life that much better.