No Man Will Ever Compare

So I’ve been in serious relationships before… not so serious ones as well.  I’ve had fun and I’ve had boring.  I’ve been happy, I’ve been sad.  But in none of these relationships was I genuinely happy enough to consider the man a father figure to my child.  The truth is, that no matter much I enjoy spending time with someone, or how much I want to be with him, no man will ever be able to take the place of my son’s father.

Now I don’t mean to say that I am looking for someone else to play the role of his dad, because that’s not fair to anyone.  His dad is a wonderful man, working hard to provide for his ever growing family…and that is to be respected.  What I mean to say is that no matter how hard I try, I will never be comfortable enough to let any other man (and very few women) discipline my child or correct his mistakes.  That is my place as his mother, and his father’s place as his father.  

No man will ever be able to make my son laugh the way his father can.  No man will ever be trusted to care for my child except his father.  No man will ever be able to play with my son correctly.  No man will be able to calm my child down the way his father can.  No man will ever compare to my son's father in terms of the way he interacts with my son.  No man will ever be good enough to be a larger influence in his life than his dad.  No man will ever take the place of, nor attempt to act like he is my son's father.  Because my son only has one father.  And that's how we like it.

We may not agree on all aspects of our son’s upbringing, but our son is always taken care of no matter what the situation.  He has the best of both worlds.  And despite my vision that a perfect family was one made up of mom, dad, and child (or children), I have to face facts and realize that a perfect family is the family that loves each other unconditionally and without keeping score.  And my son has this on each side of his family.  Kayden has the perfect family.  He has two birthday parties, two Christmas celebrations, two sets of toys, two parents that love him no matter what, despite their failed relationship.  My son is blessed because of who his parents are.  And I'm not bragging here, I'm just trying to point out that he is lucky despite having one home with mommy and another with daddy.

How many of you parents have ever felt comfortable letting someone else correct your child?  Have you ever felt like maybe you should have stayed or fought harder to be with your child's father?  Have you ever questioned if you did the right thing by leaving?  By trying to move on?

I want to hear your thoughts!  Let me know how you feel and what you think!